by Catherine Tenger | 5. August 2025
“How to give feedback (and still have a job tomorrow)” – that’s the title of the latest episode of the ZEIT Online podcast Geht da noch was? (German only).
As a communication trainer, this topic naturally caught my attention – not least because I’ve had the pleasure of being an interview partner of the wonderful Rose Tremlett on this insightful podcast twice myself. I truly appreciate the way it balances depth and lightness.
In this new episode, Lisa Hegeman and Rose Tremlett share valuable thoughts on how to give honest feedback at work without damaging relationships. She shows why it’s worth developing this skill.
🎧 Click here to listen to the episode (in German)
What I particularly like about the episode: it gives practical insights into why feedback is so crucial for our professional relationships – something I also explore regularly in my workshops with teams, leaders, and young professionals.
Giving Feedback – Clear, Constructive, Respectful
Good feedback is like a compass: it helps others navigate – without dictating the direction. Giving feedback means taking responsibility – not just for the message, but for the tone.
Here are a few key principles:
- Be specific, not vague: “Your presentation today was clearly structured and calmly delivered” is more helpful than “You’re always good at that.”
- Describe, don’t judge: Focus on what you observed, not your interpretation of it.
- Use “I” statements instead of “You” accusations: “I felt confused when…” instead of “You always…”
- Timely and in the right setting: Feedback is most effective when it’s fresh – and when it’s shared in an atmosphere of trust.
Receiving Feedback – Curious, Not Defensive
Receiving feedback is a chance to uncover blind spots and grow. But our egos often jump in: “Was that a criticism?”
Here are some ideas that can help:
- Listen without jumping in to defend: Even when it’s uncomfortable – take a breath and ask questions to clarify.
- Take it seriously, not personally: Feedback is a perspective – not a verdict on your entire being.
- Say thank you – even for critical input: Giving feedback takes time and courage. It’s a sign of respect and investment.
- Sort what fits: You don’t have to act on every piece of feedback. But each one deserves consideration.
A Culture of Feedback Needs Courage and Practice
In a healthy feedback culture, feedback is not an exception – it’s part of everyday interactions. Asking for and offering feedback is normal. It takes courage, trust, and a mindset that allows growth. Mistakes and blind spots aren’t shameful – they’re opportunities.
Whether in teams, training sessions or private life: Those who treat feedback as a gift – clearly wrapped, sincerely given, and openly received – lay the foundation for genuine development.
Tip for this Week:
Try this out consciously in the coming days – give someone feedback and ask for some yourself. You could start with:
“Would it be okay if I shared some feedback with you?”
Or:
“I’d love to hear your honest thoughts on what stood out in my presentation – even the critical bits.”
Small gestures like these can make a big difference.
Want to go deeper?
In my workshops, we practise giving and receiving feedback hands-on – practical, respectful, and with a touch of humour. Whether you’re a team, a leader or just starting out professionally: building a strong feedback culture benefits everyone.
👉 Click here to explore my training offers or get in touch directly – I look forward to hearing from you!